Encouraginng each other to be assertive is something that is very important to me!
Relying on others can be very frustrating. People using their own initiative can often achieve far more. Self belief is important!
We llive in a town where this already happens so much . It will be natural for us as to do this more and more..
A certain amount of stress is good, it keeps you alert and creative. Some of us would plod along with 'there's always tomorrow, why bother today?' and with little done, nothing achieved, no movement. Like many people, I work best when under stress, as long as I am in control and ends are achievable — or at least, perceived as attainable. But there is a different kind of stress — physical and emotional with no satisfactory end in sight. For instance: Caring for a loved one suffering with dementia, the stress magnified by problems and other conditions of which there is no control. At times like these, stress becomes evident — for some, depression or aggression; for others, physical signs such as migraine, angina, severe digestive problems.
But some problems can have solutions. Urged on by stress, some people thrive on finding those solutions.
Essentially, we are all different and deal with stress in our own way — exercise, enjoyable pursuits, meditation, are just a few ways. But drinking and heavy smoking, illegal drugs or aggressive behaviour are self-destructive means.
Someone to talk to in confidence can also be a release, especially if that someone is a counsellor and able to get the client to draw on his or her own resources.
Very enlightning Glady's, you read like a 'Stop Smoking Counsellor" whom has never smoked! Your words indicate to me that you have never been lost in the under world of depression. Have you ever been so "stressed" that you consider ending your life?
If you had Dear Lady, you would know that "drinking and heavy smoking, illegal drugs or aggressive behaviour" may see you through to tomorrow.
Is there not a way of living that is totally stress free.
I don't see having deadlines as stressful.
One has to be careful when making the contract that one can come up with the goods. Then it's a question of planning well and working hard well in advance so that one is ready well in advance.
An alternative approach is perhaps not to be too concerned about the quality and detail of the outcome.
When one is 'stuck in what seems an impossible situation' some clear thinking and consideration of dramatic solutions to a problem. can help a lot.
I've certainly suffered from stress and severe depression but think that I have also learnt a little about how to avoid it.
Or to adopt the attitude "What the hell, I'm going to go flat out on this". I suspect I may end up in a heap which will take me six months to recover from. Never-the-less I'm doing it because it's something I want to do. (You have to be living on your own to take this approach - as I was)
I lost about £70,000 in 1985 after working 18 hours a day for about a year having to make lots of difficult decisions and being in situations I had no experience of how to handle. When it was nearly over with debts and debtors clamoring at my door I went into depression for six months which I was please to climb out of.
But the experience was one I treasure. Knowing that you can come through something like this is great in many ways.
And no, even though I discovered that alcohol could be a great relief, I chose not to take that route.It was too rewarding to be able to look back each week and say to myself:
"I still feel terrible, but if I look back a week,I can see that I am feeling better than I was.
Therefore if I keep going I'm going to feel bloody marvelous some time in the future."
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A certain amount of stress is good, it keeps you alert and creative. Some of us would plod along with 'there's always tomorrow, why bother today?' and with little done, nothing achieved, no movement.
Like many people, I work best when under stress, as long as I am in control and ends are achievable — or at least, perceived as attainable.
But there is a different kind of stress — physical and emotional with no satisfactory end in sight.
For instance: Caring for a loved one suffering with dementia, the stress magnified by problems and other conditions of which there is no control. At times like these, stress becomes evident — for some, depression or aggression; for others, physical signs such as migraine, angina, severe digestive problems.
But some problems can have solutions. Urged on by stress, some people thrive on finding those solutions.
Essentially, we are all different and deal with stress in our own way — exercise, enjoyable pursuits, meditation, are just a few ways. But drinking and heavy smoking, illegal drugs or aggressive behaviour are self-destructive means.
Someone to talk to in confidence can also be a release, especially if that someone is a counsellor and able to get the client to draw on his or her own resources.
Very enlightning Glady's, you read like a 'Stop Smoking Counsellor" whom has never smoked! Your words indicate to me that you have never been lost in the under world of depression. Have you ever been so "stressed" that you consider ending your life?
If you had Dear Lady, you would know that "drinking and heavy smoking, illegal drugs or aggressive behaviour" may see you through to tomorrow.
Is there not a way of living that is totally stress free.
I don't see having deadlines as stressful.
One has to be careful when making the contract that one can come up with the goods. Then it's a question of planning well and working hard well in advance so that one is ready well in advance.
An alternative approach is perhaps not to be too concerned about the quality and detail of the outcome.
When one is 'stuck in what seems an impossible situation' some clear thinking and consideration of dramatic solutions to a problem. can help a lot.
I've certainly suffered from stress and severe depression but think that I have also learnt a little about how to avoid it.
Or to adopt the attitude "What the hell, I'm going to go flat out on this". I suspect I may end up in a heap which will take me six months to recover from. Never-the-less I'm doing it because it's something I want to do. (You have to be living on your own to take this approach - as I was)
I lost about £70,000 in 1985 after working 18 hours a day for about a year having to make lots of difficult decisions and being in situations I had no experience of how to handle. When it was nearly over with debts and debtors clamoring at my door I went into depression for six months which I was please to climb out of.
But the experience was one I treasure. Knowing that you can come through something like this is great in many ways.
And no, even though I discovered that alcohol could be a great relief, I chose not to take that route.It was too rewarding to be able to look back each week and say to myself:
"I still feel terrible, but if I look back a week,I can see that I am feeling better than I was.
Therefore if I keep going I'm going to feel bloody marvelous some time in the future."
And this is how it turned out.
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